write it down

as part of the program i'm going through at the Hudson Institute to get my coaching certification I have to hire two different coaches. my first coach was instrumental in helping me transition from my last job in advertising to launching my business in the new year. as if i didn't already see the value a coach can provide, i've now experienced it first hand and it's invaluable. so now i'm starting with coach #2 who i met today in santa barbara. and this time i'm looking to focus on the other aspects of my life, beyond my new company and career (even though that feels like it's 99% of my world right now).

just like the work i did with my first coach--it's about getting it out of your head and writing it down. so i worked on my business goals, my budget, my budget projections, my audience, how i want to position myself, etc etc. but for some reason when i met w/ my coach today and she asked me what's important to me beyond my work and i said meeting the love of my life, she said well have you written down who it is you're targeting? well, no coach, i have not. but it did make me see that just like in everything else in life, until you make it a goal and as a result put effort toward it, it doesn't just happen. you must write it down to set it in motion. just like i've written my 100+ names that i plan to contact about my new company. just like i know how much money i need to make each month to stay afloat. i realize there's no real reason why i shouldn't write down what i'm looking for, what i require out of a life partner and make it that much easier for myself to know it when i see it. or start to figure out where to look for him. so without getting to ahead of myself with the "plan" because even i can admit, this feels a bit weird--and a lot harder than when i sat to map my business out. i'm just gonna start my writing down what i'm looking for, who is my ideal partner. and not just your generic laundry list, but who does jen, at age 35 living in CA, who suffered a tragic loss 2 years ago, who just launched her own company and is not yet financially sound--who does that jen want to meet? because one thing i know for sure--it's definitely a different person that i would've written about 10 years ago....hell, even 5 years ago.

what's something you want in your life? write it down...and then write one goal that goes toward it, and let me know what happens.