a page out of someone else's book

About two years ago my former therapist suggested a book to me with regard to dating and finding my person, it's called Meeting your Half-Orange (pictured here). I remember starting it and getting a chapter or two in but the content was lost on me. It was talking about dating optimism and needing to create the vision of what you wanted in order for it to come. The author even suggests building out your own vision board for the type of relationship you want to attract (not type casting the guy but instead the relationship and the feelings you want to feel, the places you want to enjoy together, etc etc). It was all just lost on me.

And now, today, I can't help but look back and smile b/c having now gone through my coaching program and have launched a business around helping people create change and live the life they want to be living, I realize a lot of this book is similar advice that I give my clients in other areas of their life. It starts with a vision, and owning that vision.

So it hit me -- why can't I take a page out of my own book when it comes to dating?

I'm not sure, so instead I've put myself on a program, the meeting my half-orange program and I'm taking every page out of Amy Spencer's book. And one of the first steps is declaring that you're ready. And for one of the first times in my life, despite all the times that came before when I thought I was ready (or just thought wanting it bad enough was the same as being ready), I can see why I haven't met my person yet. I see why two years ago I wasn't able to get through this book. After all I was inside of year one of losing my mom tragically and was steeped in grief. And I was also miserable in my job at the time and feeling a bit lost at sea. But after working hard at my grief and finally coming into my vision for what I was put on this earth to do, coach people, I'm finally feeling like everything is aligned. I am truly happy and I love my life. And now, in 2013, I'm ready to meet my half-orange. Notice I said "meet" vs "find" -- another thing Amy speaks of. It isn't our job to find our person, we just have to put ourselves in a mental space to attract them and they will find us. And after years of feeling like this was my job, I like the sound of that.

So to all my readers, you heard it here first. I declare that 2013 will be the year i not only fall head over heels in love but I will meet the man I will marry. I won't go so far as to say when the wedding is but I will know it's him by the end of this year. I am confident in that and I hope you'll stay on this journey with me to see if I'm right. And for all my single lady readers -- check out this book. I'm 1/2 way through and about to start on my vision board...I see some wine, lots of magazines and a good playlist in my future :)