does it all work the same?

Envision it and it will appear. I subscribe to that line of thinking. It's largely the basis for coaching -- imagine your vision, set the goal, create the plan to make it happen. I decided to change careers -- I imagined what I wanted it to be, set the goals and am now living out the plan. Same for my apartment -- I made my list of what I wanted it to be, set the goal to be moved by end of June and made it happen. But then comes dating. Does it work the same way w/ that? God knows I've tried -- I created my list of what I want, envisioned it for sure, haven't really given myself a deadline/goal b/c I can't fully control that and as a result not sure of the plan. But what I do know is as I meet people, they seem perfectly nice but I either feel no spark, I'm not attracted to them or I'm crazy attracted to them but the overall connection and qualities I want are still missing.

Why's it gotta be so hard?!

And now (which I'm incredibly happy to be able to say) that I feel so good and so happy in my life, unless it feels like all things are lining up the way I want them to with a guy, I don't even want to bother w/ it.

So that leads me to my other core line of thinking -- the right one will appear at the right time. This was true for my career change, true for the apartment search and I believe will be true as I await to adopt the right dog. So just like w/ apartments and just like w/ dogs, I went for some that seemed right and they didn't work out. But as I'm sitting in my new FABULOUS apartment I now know why. And I know when get MY dog, it will be the same. So I guess that leads me to believe it should work the same way w/ a guy -- I'll go for some that won't turn out to be what I hoped, or some that seem right but don't pan out and in time, when the right one comes along I'll be that much more clear and as a result actually recognize him as such when he appears. So rather than questioning and re-questioning if I should be giving someone more of a chance, i'm going to trust that this process has yet to fail me, that my instincts are typically right on and most of all, that it WILL happen and when it does, I'll just know.